Do You Struggle to Create and Sustain Healthy Relationships?
Do you tend to repeatedly
find yourself in toxic, high-drama relationships? After constantly giving within your relationships, do you wonder when it’s going to be your turn? Perhaps you fear that without your partner you would lose your purpose or identity. Or you just lose yourself all together in relationships. You may often hear yourself blaming others or the world for your life experience. Is it tough to know that your partner is unhappy or disturbed in any way? Do you feel guilty when you take time for yourself? Is it scary to consider creating space in a relationship? Maybe you struggle to be aware of, let alone meet, your own basic needs or even ask for what you want.
If this sounds familiar, you no longer need to keep suffering in unsatisfying and unsustainable relationships. Codependency recovery counseling is a great place to explore these patterns and learn new ways of being. With the help of a therapist who specializes in codependency recovery, you can reclaim your true self and carve a new path moving forward. Give yourself permission to open to the possibilities of living with more joy, peace, and fulfillment.
Codependency Is Everywhere
You may have never questioned whether you are codependent because many codependent behaviors are considered “normal” in our culture. Deviating from behaviors like putting others first, self-sacrifice, making your partner happy at all costs, being self-less, or fusing with your partner, may even be called selfish or bring up forms of guilt. You might even be accused of being uncaring, neglectful, or not loving your partner enough. To attempt to see yourself as separate from those you “love” or who “love” you may seem foreign.
If you grew up with other people, chances are codependency has touched your life at some point. You are not alone in your desire and struggles to create something new. You may have even grown up with a childhood vow that you would never repeat what your parents did with you, only to end up in a relationship that feels similar for some reason.
You Can Break Old Patterns And Build Conscious, Healthy Relationships:
In our codependency recovery work together, I will challenge you to show up as your whole self, with no exceptions. I will also challenge you to settle for nothing less than a relationship that has room for and encourages you to be whole and continue to expand and grow. This philosophy applies to relationships with a partner as well as with yourself. I will also encourage you to explore and speak your deepest truth about how you feel, what you want, and who you are. You will then be in a stronger position to learn to share this truth with others.
Boundaries will become a common and important theme during our sessions. Healthy boundaries are one of the baseline requirements for breaking out of codependent patterns. Growing up, you may have learned to either allow others to walk all over you, or to protect yourself by not letting others in too close. Learning what a healthy boundary looks and feels like, in addition to learning how to uphold boundaries, will be primary tasks in your work. You will learn to stand up for yourself, listen to your inner knowing, and follow through.
We will also explore those family patterns that created your current coping mechanisms that evolved into codependency. Our focus is on the deepest parts of yourself in need of acknowledgement and healing. Rather than blaming your parents or others, I will encourage you learn ways to forgive them for doing what they knew at the time. This process empowers you to claim responsibility for yourself in the present with the choice to live in a different way.
You can create and experience a different kind of love. I am here to support and guide you along the way. Through my own journey of codependency recovery, as well as witnessing many folks as they have navigated their journeys, I offer experience and hope for a new path to emerge for you. A path of peace, love, and joy beyond your imagination that comes from a commitment to yourself to live a life of integrity, dignity, and humility. Those are the true gifts of recovery. The work is not always easy, but it is completely worth it!
You Are Ready To Heal Your Codependent Patterns But Still Have A Few Concerns …
If I’ve been doing this all my life, can I really change?
Yes, you can! Codependency is not hard-wired. In fact, as we continue to learn more about neuroplasticity, we now understand that our brains are more flexible than we once believed. Identifying the roots of our patterns and encouraging feelings to flow creates movement of old stored emotional issues and allows them to be released. This helps you to create new perspectives, forgive yourself and others, and practice new ways of being. It takes a lot of practice to learn something new, but as with any new skill, it eventually becomes a natural way of being. At some point, you may even wonder how you ever functioned in those unhealthy relationships. Codependency can become a thing of the past!
What if I change so much that I no longer fit in my family (or marriage or friendships, etc.)?
This is an inherent 
risk in anyone’s therapy journey, no matter what issue you are working on. As you grow and expand, you may evolve beyond relationships with people who do not wish to grow and expand. You will have to measure for yourself if your freedom, peace, and joy are worth the risk. If you are feeling called to take this risk, the time is now.
Is there anyone out there willing to have a different type of relationship with me?
Yes. If you are willing to take the time to get really clear about what you want for yourself and in a partner, are willing to wait, and are NOT willing to settle for anything less, you will find your true partner. However, be open that in the end, that partner may in fact, be you. Either way, you have broken the pattern of destructive, unhealthy, and unsatisfying relationships and are now free to just be yourself in the world. The saying that “there is someone for everyone” is true and I believe that if you are willing to be earnest in your inner work and willing to wait with patient expectancy, your person will show up. Don’t give up!
It’s Time For You!
Are you ready to learn new ways of being with yourself and in relationships? Give yourself permission to make peace with your past, release drama, and create freedom in your life.
I invite you to continue to explore my site and check out this blog on developing strong internal boundaries or other recommended readings. When it feels like the next right step, feel free to text me at 407-739-4267 or email me with further questions or to set up an appointment. I look forward to the opportunity to connect with you!